Monday, September 27, 2010


Maybe my child got stuck in the doggy door.

Maybe my other child got stuck in the rocking chair.

Maybe Mason learned to kiss the dog before he learned to kiss us.

Maybe my husband told me the best thing I cook is green beans (from a can).

Maybe Mason and Brody are going to be a year old in less than a month, and I am having a hard time with it.

Maybe Mason makes the funniest noises ever.

Maybe Brody gets "mad" and makes us laugh hysterically.

Maybe I desire more free time but don't know what to do when I have it.

Maybe I (accidentally) made pigs on a blanket instead of pigs in a blanket for breakfast.

Maybe I am blessed by how much my family helps us.

Maybe I got a new camera for my birthday, so I'm back on track with taking hundreds of pictures a month.

Maybe I turned 32 and am completely at peace with it.

Maybe Danielle does the coolest blog designs ever!

Maybe this cooler weather is all I needed to put me in a better mood.

Maybe my husband keeps me laughing.

Maybe the boys have learned to wave and give "high five." They now want to "high five" all through dinner. How can you not laugh?

Maybe Brody tweaked Mason's nose.

Maybe Brody's curly hair is just precious.

Maybe Mason has the most beautiful blue eyes.

Maybe I am so excited about this new season of TV shows- specifically Grey's Anatomy and Private Practice.

Maybe this is my favorite season of all! I can't wait for colorful leaves, hot apple cider, and pumpkin cupcakes with cream cheese icing!

Maybe I love change while my husband prefers things to stay the same.

Maybe I am doing the best I can.

Maybe Mason loves boxes.

Maybe I like the boys to have funky hair.

Maybe we took the boys to the park this month, and they had a blast!

Maybe we also went to the zoo for the first time.

Maybe Moxie doesn't want to play ball.

Maybe we are a happy family of four.

Maybe these boys light up my world.

Maybe Brody's mechanical mind intrigues me.

Maybe Mason's free spirit and adventurousness makes me panic.

Maybe my best friend Leah is the very bestest bestie ever!

Maybe my son propped his foot up on the table (and kept it there most of dinner) while we were eating out one night.

Maybe Mason unrolled an entire roll of toilet paper.

Maybe Brody's expressive eyes crack us up!

Maybe Moxie is the most patient dog ever.

Maybe the brotherly love is already showing!

Maybe my kids are the most amazing gift ever!

Saturday, September 11, 2010

I Surrender

I need to keep in mind that my job is to balance family and work (a tight rope walk) and not lose my ever-loving sanity. Since both Allen and I are working 40+ hours a week and trying to do our best to raise our little fellas, blogging has fallen by the wayside. I wanted to use this blog to document the fun, the laughs, the dreams, and the parenting while trying to hold on to my marriage and friendships and pre-baby activities. Unfortunately, I need to admit doing this is harder than I ever thought it would be. My white surrender flag has been raised. I am not doing a good job at all, and I feel like things are falling apart around me.

It is likely many new parents feel this way, but I am just now to the point where I feel capable of admitting it. Up until the boys were about ten months old, I hadn't quite felt like myself. I still felt that my body was taken over by lack of sleep, post-pregnancy weight, "mush" brain, and going back to work. What I am now truly discovering is that I feel more like myself but less capable of handling it all. And this is a Type A personality admittance EVEN WITH all the help we have. Honestly, my family could not be more supportive. They could not help more than they do. They could not be asked to do anything else for us. And I am still feeling like quite a failure with keeping up with friends, remembering work-related tasks, remembering whose day it is to pick up the kids, unloading the dishwasher, finding time to still be in love with my husband, keeping the house clean, and sending cards to friends on their birthdays. While these tasks may seem menial, they were definitely a big part of my life before children.

Now, I dare not complain about having two boys because my biggest dream in life was accomplished when I became a mother. I want to admit that it is hard. It is so very hard. It is more difficult than I ever imagined it would be. It is the hardest thing I have done since taking sixteen college hours and working a full-time job. Being a parent while continuing on with life's responsibilities tops that by a million times more than a million.

I love my kids, but I feel like I just can't seem to give enough to anyone- friends, Mason, Brody, Allen, blogging, work, and last of all, myself. Time is stretched so thin that when all has finally been competed around the house by 9 PM, all I want to do is sleep. But sleep does not really offer me the quiet, reflective time that my brain needs to process work-related tasks, how to make time for friends, what I will cook for dinner tomorrow night, or how to thank my family for their unending selflessness.

All this being said, I am crying and typing- I cannot do it all. I am doing the best that I can. My Surrender flag is raised, and I surrender. I am sorry I can't do more, but I mentally, physically, and emotionally don't have more to give.

Parenting is hard, and it exposes a lot about yourself that you don't want to admit, although rarely do I think we give ourselves credit for all that we are doing. So, instead of feeling inadequate today, I am going to try and remind myself of everything I AM doing. I am sending prayers up to The Big Guy to help me remember I am only one woman and at the same time waving the white flag to surrender the guilt.

Every day with the boys allows me to see life through new eyes, and I am grateful and honored to have this chance. Each day I learn new things about myself as I parent two vastly unique and different little guys. I love Mason and Brody immensely, wholeheartedly, and without reserves. This is my best and most difficult job. This is my duty and responsibility. Until I can get everything else together, as long as I am honoring my children and teaching them about life, I am doing what needs to be done.

Anyone else want to wave their Surrender flag?

P.S. My dear friend Danielle gave my blog a new update. Isn't she amazing? Don't you just love it? I do! Simple and perfect. Just the opposite of me. Ha! Thanks, sweet friend. You and your work are fabulous!