Monday, March 1, 2010

It's Okay!

  • It's okay to miss being pregnant.

  • It's ok that I bite only my middle fingernails on both hands.

  • It's okay that I cry when I look at pictures of the boys when they were first born.

  • It's Oh Kay to smell your armpits to make sure you don't stink.

  • It's okay to go into the nursery while the boys are sleeping and cry because I am so thankful.

  • It's O.K. that Allen and I fuss with each other because we are exhausted.

  • It's okay that I rarely have time to read a magazine or check emails anymore.

  • It's OK that I usually only get to blog once a month.

  • It's okay that my wedding ring doesn't fit anymore.

  • It's ok that I haven't been cooking often.

  • It's okay that on weekends I often stay in my pajamas all day.

  • It's okay to not get everything on my "To Do" list accomplished.

  • It's OK that I sometimes get mad at myself for not being as organized as I was before I got pregnant because I'm still (likely) more organized than 85% of the population.

  • It's ok that some days I am so tired I don't want to talk to anyone.

  • It's OK that some days I don't accomplish anything but loving my babies.

  • It's ok that our house isn't as tidy as it was before the babies arrived.

  • It's okay that I don't get naps anymore.

  • It's ok to get upset on days I don't have more than five minutes to myself.

  • It's OK that my body doesn't look like it used to anymore.

  • It's Oh Kay to laugh so hard you cry.

  • It's okay to want more kids and yet be scared to death of having more.

  • It's okay that some of my friends don't call as often.

  • It's ok that I take a bajillion million zillion pictures of Mason and Brody.

  • It's Oh Kay that sometimes I get peed on when changing diapers.

  • It's ok that most of my lounging clothes have spit-up stains on the shoulder.


  • It's okay that our dogs don't get as much attention as they used to before we had two infants.

  • It's okay that I sometimes forget birthdays now.

  • It's okay that my full brain still hasn't returned from maternity leave.

  • It's ok to cuddle with the dogs because I need it.

  • It's ok to put up boundaries.

  • It's OK for me to withdraw from life every once in a while.

  • It's ok that I feel guilty for not being nicer to my husband.

  • It's OK that we are now a family of four.

  • It's ok to go out and eat every once in a while.

  • It's okay to recognize I am not perfect and never was.


  • It's Oh Kay that my laundry piles up on my closet floor, and I do it only when I run out of undies.

  • It's ok to ask for help.

  • It's OK to need help.

  • It's ok to feel sad about my babies growing up and getting bigger.

  • It's O.K. to feel like I need some alone time every once in a while.


  • It's okay that my memory isn't as sharp as it used to be.

  • It's O.K. that my car hasn't been clean in more than a year.

  • It's okay that my priorities have changed.

  • It's Ok that some people can't handle both of the babies at the same time.

  • It's ok to admit that my husband might be a better stay-at-home-dad than I was a stay-at-home-mom.

  • It's okay that there are days that Allen and I want to strangle each other.

  • It's OK that I miss my best friend so deeply and earnestly it makes me ache.

  • It's okay that I'm hard on myself for forgetting things that are important (my mother-in-law's birthday and accidentally taking a dress that my best friend loved to consignment).

  • It's okay to love my kids with all my heart.

  • It's Oh Kay to ask silly questions like, "Are you my friend? "

  • It's ok to feel empathy for those still struggling to have children and guilt because I have mine.

  • It's okay that we don't have the kind of money we had before we had babies.

  • It's ok that sometimes I just want to lie in bed and listen to the boys coo in their cribs.

  • It's Oh Kay to laugh when Allen dances because friends, it is hilarious!

  • It's OK to curse.

  • It's ok to feel stressed when both babies are screaming.

  • It's O.K. to sometimes need a break from both my husband and the babies.

  • It's OK to wonder about job security.

  • It's Oh Kay to have cravings when you are not pregnant.

  • It's Oh Kay to stink up the bathroom every once in a while.


  • It's O.K. to have dreams.

  • It's okay to wonder about the future.

  • It's ok to spoil your husband.

  • It's ok to want more out of life.

  • It's O.K. to think about "what might have been."

  • It's okay to have battle wounds.

  • It's okay to know you are loved.

  • It's Oh Kay to burp loudly in front of your husband.

  • It's OK to admit you are wrong.

  • It's Oh Kay to poke fun at your spouse because he takes longer to get ready than you do.


  • It's ok to wear black frequently because you like it and because it hides the baby weight you may still have.

  • It's Oh Kay to sing at the top of your lungs and scare your children.

  • It's O.K. that I cry when I think about how much my babies have grown.

  • It's okay to not know what the future holds.

  • It's ok to take one day at a time.

  • It's OK to keep things that hold a special place in your heart.

  • It's Oh Kay to admit I like some of Dolly Parton's music.

  • It's O.K. to just be "okay" instead of "great" some days.

  • It's okay to say "no."

  • It's Oh Kay to smell your child's butt to see if he has a poopy diaper.

  • It's O.K. to need hugs.

  • It's ok to let people know I have twins and am doing the best I can.

  • It's Oh Kay to need a little something sweet after every meal.

  • It's okay for people to talk about you behind your back because they are going to say what they want to say anyway.

  • It's OK not to know your purpose in life.


It's all going to be OKAY!